Opposites Attract, Sometimes…

You may be fascinated by how convincingly and passionately your date presents a point of view that is alternate to your own. You may even find that passionate conviction attractive. Great. On the other hand, some things that seem like red flags should probably be treated as such. Of course, it’s up to you to decide what you like and don’t like in the other person, but here are some potential red flags to consider:

Red Flags

Inappropriate comments, taking phone calls during date
Cheapskate, picky eater, irrational or special requests
Big ego, talks about self only, excessive use of profanity
Unnecessarily emphatic statements, too blunt, loud talker
Lazy, unkempt clothing and appearance, smelly
Excessive drug, alcohol or tobacco use
Insecure, shy, overly apologetic
Fidgety, restless, can’t relax

The Bottom Line

Real relationships take effort, tolerance, patience, persistence, understanding, and many other skills. You can’t change who a person is at their core, so find someone with similar core values as your own and then see if the rough edges are something you can work with. Remember, you’re not perfect and neither is anyone you’ll meet. The question is whether your imperfections are compatible.

Don’t settle for another Saturday night of bad TV shows or poking at the internet. I know it sounds cheesy, but take action today to improve your tomorrow. Down the road, I guarantee that your TV or PlayStation won’t really make you happy or motivate you to go out and try a new activity. Your cat or dog can’t to run to the store for ice cream or Ibuprofen when they want you to feel better. There’s no substitute for a good partner.

Getting Started is Free, Missing Out is Expensive.

Consider this: If you can accept the fact that a great match is out there waiting for you, you’d be pretty disappointed if you learned later that someone else got there first. Don’t mess around, or you might miss out. Take action today.

So let’s get you started. While you’re working on the basics discussed above, you can start looking for people who interest you. Below are several categories of dating sites that you may be interested in. Each link will take you to a page with some suggested dating sites and what to expect from them. On most of these sites you can view everyone’s profiles for free after signing up, and if you sign up using our links below, some of the sites will reward us with a small commission. Think of it as a free way to thank us for the tips and encouragement...

Choose a category below and let’s find you a good match:

Find someone to go out with - it doesn’t have to be a perfect match. Even bad dates give you experience for later dates with potentially better matches. You may have a better idea of what you’re looking for in a mate after some exploratory dates. Go out and get in the game.